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Although married individuals come to mind first when talking about a couple, individuals are referred to as a couple together with their partners in all their relationships until they get married. Therefore, the meaning of the word couple is very dense and full. So, “How many types of relationships are there that make individuals couples?” To answer the question,
“Why Get Couples Therapy?”
Getting couples therapy is just as important as finding out what your blood type is.
Because when you are in a life-threatening situation, the first intervention will be to open an vascular access and to supply a few units of blood suitable for your blood group. The analogy made with this example is also valid for crises between couples. When couples think that they are drowning in a relationship, it is necessary to know where to intervene and what should be given to them as a reinforcement in this relationship. However, couples cannot avoid emotional difficulties after ending the relationship with divorce or separation, unless they know what kind of couple they are when they have a crisis, what keeps them together beyond loving and liking each other, or what harms their relationship as they stand together.
To explain again through a similar example, just as the right interventions can be made when necessary after learning that there is a blood incompatibility between the couples, it is very important to know the conflicts that arise between the couples beforehand and to be able to intervene in a crisis environment.
Therefore, when you come to couples therapy;
So How?
A man who is willing to work in a shift job in order to make his family live in better conditions says that his wife says, “He doesn’t spare any time for us, he works hard.” This is not a realistic expectation if their complaints do not fit the life chosen by the couple. Because for this man, family welfare is at the forefront and his self-confidence is shaken when he cannot reach his family to those living standards. Then, to make the expectation realistic, “How can you spend a quality and satisfying time for everyone when you come home as a partner who works so hard (not just according to the expectation of the spouse!)? We can choose the way to find the answer to the question. That’s when it becomes a realistic expectation.
The same is true for women. For example, if the female partner is working and she is tired because of her hustle and bustle in her own life, the man asks the woman, “I want to see a happy, cheerful woman every night when I come home.” expectations may not be realistic. Because fatigue can overshadow happiness. But if we go through a solution where the partner comes home every night and thinks about what both parties can do to make his wife more smiling, this would be a realistic expectation.
First of all, couples come to therapy as individuals who are broken, hurt and tired because of the problems they have experienced in their relationships. If a couples therapy is attempted by leaving emotion-focused therapy without considering their emotional sensitivities, it would be like stepping on the wounds of the couples. The emotions and fatigue of couples receiving couples therapy at the Happy Life Psychological Counseling Center are the first criteria to be considered.
In couple therapy, it is often observed that the communication languages of couples who are offended and tired towards each other also change. Couples no longer listen to each other, but to the hurtful voices within themselves. For this reason, when talking to each other, they respond to each other with the words of this offended voice, and sometimes even hurt each other emotionally.
For this reason, regardless of the type of therapy received from our center, online or face-to-face, great attention is paid to the language that the couples use to each other in therapy, the duration of their conversation, and the relaxation by expressing themselves correctly on both sides, considering this negative habit that develops on the cycle of blaming each other and self-defense against being blamed. . Thus, couples are tried to be strengthened in a more solution-oriented way so that they can listen, understand and find a solution without blaming each other.
In many centers, couples therapy and adult and individual therapy are confused. For this reason, it is very important to open your relationship to the right specialist, knowing that couples therapy has different sensitive points.
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